Monday, 25 January 2016

Could it be Love, Stupidity or Juju?


When I was younger, i had an uncle who the general consensus was that his wife had either given him "something" to eat or she had tied him at the end of her wrapper or he was firmly placed in a bottle! We looked at the woman with one kain eye then because we used to wonder which native doctor did that for her. Why did we think that??? Because that uncle of mine loved her in a way that didnt make sense to us! You ask my uncle for money, he says he will get back to you - just because he wants to discuss it with his wife. Sometimes, he will even refer you to his wife if you call for anything. He will say "tell your aunty what the issue is and i will call you later". Anyone who came to tell him anything negative about his wife, he will EITHER call his wife, right in front of you, and ask you to say what you were just saying OR he will ask you to get out of his house. To everyone outside, it seemed like his wife could do no wrong. Him and his wife were always on the same page on any and everything and that used to annoy the heck outta me!
Fast forward years later, as an adult, i was gisting with him one day and i stylishly told him "Uncle, you know we used to think aunty charmed you or something. Because of the way you used to put her in front and before everyone, never accepting that she could do any wrong". My uncle laughed and said "Nne, i want a happy marriage and i know i can only have that by ensuring i put my wife first and keep her happy at all times. My life is a whole lot easier if i dont keep anything from her" .

I am now married. I now understand. I can now see that Government is supposed to pass a law to make my uncle a role model for all husbands and aspiring husbands - by fire by force. whether they like it or not - that is if they want happy families and a happier society! Men today can a learn a lot from my uncle!

Some days ago, twitter went haywire with the news of Ice Prince and his babe (Maima) who is allegedly cheating on him with a married man (or will i say "cheating on the married man with Ice Prince" since the olofofos say that she had been dating the married man way before meeting Ice Prince). Well, Ice Prince took to twitter to defend her vigorously! He called out the married man, he hooked Maima up to this very high pedestal and made people that "carried the matter for head" look really stupid! A lot of people are like:

LOL!

People are wondring if this one is LOVE, STUPIDITY OR JUJU. Well, i think its Love. The guy is the one wearing the shoe, he is he one in the ring, he is the only one that has a right to determine how to act. He is a man who is defying all odds to be with a woman he loves. That is a keeper! He will probably go in and fight with her and cry and shout but to the world, he gat her back!

I really wish them the best. men that stand up for their women are rare. You see a man who hears something about his wife and no matter where they are or who is present, he starts berating her. a lot of men profess all manner of love in private, but in public, they hang their women out to dry (like wet handkerchief)
Love like Ice Princes' is hard to find now. He might seem foolish to us but really, that woman who doesnt want her man to stand solidly behind her even when she has done wrong should indicate by raising her hand!
Maima, lucky you! But make sure you dont break Ice Prince's heart after all these ooo, it will be a huge shame!

4 comments:

  1. My dear, it's not just love but absolute trust and respect for spouse

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  2. Absolutely! Qualities so rare these days.

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  3. Wow! Lovely piece. "This" love is God given. My school of thought has always been " what you want you give", but lots of people out there have "failed" me. Identifying a willing knight takes great great wisdom.
    True a faithful loyal and committed lover, partner, friend is painfully rare.
    My 2016 goal is to be one as much as i want my husband and friends to be. Ah! Not to forget siblings and cousins!!!

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  4. "What you want, you give", wow! That's an awesome philosophy! If everyone gave what they want, there will be fewer issues in relationships. God help us all!

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