Ladies, beware of the internet!

Ok, not really 'Beware' like the sign to warn you that a no-nonsense dog is in the vicinity or the 'Beware, this house is not for sale' sign. This warning is more to make you sit up and listen.
I was listening to the radio yesterday and one of the OAPs was making a joke about Kanye West and his babe Kim K.
The guy was wondering how it will be like if he were to be the one about to marry Kim K. he was trying to figure out how he would have been able to tell his mother who exactly the woman he wants to marry is. He wondered what he would say to his mom when she (mom) tries to research his wife-to-be online and then sees her sex tape! No be small gbege e go be!
Although rumors have it that Kanye is seeking to buy up all the rights to Kim K's mis-adventure which found its way to the internet some years ago, and which ironically, shot her to stardom. Her sex tape is what am talking about.
Looks like Kanye is so in  love, he wants to keep unwanted eyes from feasting on his babe's body, albeit in the virtual world. But the big question is "How possible is it that one man can completely erase such a video from the virtual world"??? If all websites in the U.S take it down, what of people that have downloaded and saved the video on their computers in their homes?

That got me thinking. The world today has gotten to the point where everyone is exposed, exposed like the anus of a chicken when there's a wind! (pardon my comparison)

People are supposed to be super careful bearing in mind that some things just cant be taken back. Exchange of nude pictures, vulgar chats and messages, videos of things that should be kept secret, all these are things that can destroy ones reputation in this day and age.

Do you know that some potential employers now research people they want to hire on the internet before the hire them? What happens when a potential employer 'googles' your name? What will they likely see about you?

Ladies, lets be careful. There are people out there who are very callous. Don't send your explicit pictures to anyone! Hell, don't even take explicit pictures of yourself!!!

You never know who a person is until you fall out with that person. 

Lets try our best to safeguard our reputation in this time when privacy is just a word in the dictionary

Why is 'Marriage' filled with Rules, Rules Rules?

On my wedding day, the chairman of the occasion - during his speech - used about 10 minutes to give us advise on how to behave as we were stepping into the sacred institution called Marriage.

There were lots of 'Don't' and 'You can’t' embedded in his speech. It made me wonder - is there supposed to be a manual for Marriage?

Each and every one of us, at one point or the other, have been advised on how to make our marriages blissful. These advices sound so good and rational when we hear them but at the point where they should be implemented - well, that’s just another story.

Most times, we would have already gone down the opposite path before we remember 'oops, that isn’t what the 'rule' says'.

And these rules paraded about by most people on how to make our marriages wonderful, I beg to differ on some of them. But that will be on another post.

Today, I just want to ask - How come there are just so many rules involved in Marriage.

In my opinion, when you commit to someone, love that person and allow that person to mean the world to you, rules aren’t really necessary. This is because how to make that person happy will just come naturally to you. You wouldn’t need anyone to tell you 'to pay your partner a compliment'. You wouldn’t need anybody to tell you to 'say Am Sorry when you offend that person' or not to shout at that person. All these will just come naturally.

So maybe the rules apply because there are lots of mis-matches or just outright lazy people who just can’t be bothered and hence the guidance to the Land of Bliss

Being a lady is tiring!

"You don't act like a lady",
"You don't talk like a lady",
"You don't eat like a lady",
"You don't sit like a lady"

These are the kinds of things we are faced with everyday. These are the kind of things we hear.
Of the 2 genders, society has placed so many responsibilities and has so many expectations of the everyday woman. Women are expected to be the epitome of all things right while its ok for a man to 'be a man' AKA 'do as he likes'.
Sometime ago, in the BBA house, 2 housemates were alleged to have had 'it' under the watching gaze of millions of eyes. While the lady was lambasted for being a 'whore', 'loose', a 'sl*t' etc. The man's only sin was that 'him no fine sef'. In as much as i don't - in any way- support what the young lady did, but it takes 2 you know.
Ladies are expected to be clean, neat and homely while its ok for a guy to be himself.
Where is it written that women are to be everything and role models while the men can do as they wish?
In my opinion, the society has far too many expectations of the regular woman and this has put lots of women under pressure.
These days, however, some have 'rebelled' coming all out to do as they wish just to break free of the shackles of what is expected of them.
All i have to say is Every human,irrespective of gender, has an obligation to his/herself and to the society to be all the can be, to do right at all times and to show decorum where it is required.
Women are not super humans, abeg!

Domestic Violence Narrations - part 1

(This a true - life story. Names have been changed to protect the people's identities)

Mary is 45 years old.Her husband is a prominent man in the society. He has a violent temper and repeatedly beats her – slapping, shoving, punching and kicking. Sometimes in front of the children, house - help and driver, and most times to their hearing. He tells her he knows she can't live without him and that if she dares leave him, he will take the children away from her. he calls her names, comparing her with other women and insisting she has nothing to offer anyone - is lazy and ungrateful for all he has done for her, the children and the home.

While Mary was coming for counselling, she said he had contacted a venereal disease and passed it on to her. She said he tried to be nice to her during the time she was going for the treatment and she forgave him. Mary complained that her children were always reluctant to come home from school and in addition her son was angry with her, sometimes even rude - asking her why she didnt defend herself and why she allowed herself to be treated this way. She felt he had even begun to side with his father.



Mary moved out of the house 3 times and each tiem she will move back in again. She is still with her husband who is still regularly giving her the beating of her life

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