I never thought i'll be this mum!

AJ stop that!
AJ climb down from that chair!
Stop chewing that wire!
For God's sake, go to your room!

Mehn! I scream and i scream.

I remember those days, before i got married. When i go to church and see women with kids that just won't sit still, just wont behave well, i secretly call the women out - in my mind. I say to myself "these women need a lesson or two in training kids. How on earth can someone's child be this unruly? She doesn't know what she is doing".

But see me now!
I  go to church these days and when my kids start, i just look helplessly around wondering who among these women throwing side glances at me, is thinking what i used to think about women with unruly kids. hmmm. God help mothers all over. And bless us too! because 'e no jus easy at all at all'.

I LOVE my kids to bits! To the moon and back and to the moon, but they have turned me to a psycho!
I have realized that kids actually are aware of what they are doing. They know when they are doing something wrong. They know when they are pulling your chord. But they just want to see if you will let it slide. And if you do, they get bolder and try something else.
Trust me now, i don't let anything slide ooo. I give it to them immediately, so they don't think its a joke.
How else do you justify a child looking at you with the corner of his eyes while he chews on an extension cord and when you look in his direction, he smiles in a sheepish manner, chews the cord some more and then ask you "mummy, is this wire?" No, its biscuit! "My friend, before i open my eyes, you have dropped that wire and vamoozed from there!"

And when you smack them for doing something wrong, they rarely cry. Beat them for something not so bad and hear them wail!

They just push your buttons.

I look at the clock, i dread school closing time. Once they step into the house and fling down their bags, it starts! Don't! Stop! Watch it! Don't step on your baby brother! Don't you chew his ear again!

I buy paracetamol in packets now.
Someone said "don't take paracetamol for every headache. rest and the headache will pass". That person sure doesn't have kids yet!

Looking back at how i thought raising kids will go, how i will just quietly say 'come away from there' and my kids will say 'yes mum' and actually come away. Looking back at all the fantasies i had, and looking at what i am faced with today, I NEVER THOUGHT I WILL BE THIS MUM!

When a woman invites physical abuse

I want to start by saying that any man who lifts his finger against a woman is a coward! A big big coward who doesnt deserve to sit at the table of men!
Having said that, i sometimes wonder if some men are actually pushed to the wall by some women.

True Story
I heard a noise outside my window yesterday morning and looked out. There was a very bad traffic jam which affected every single street in my area. Every car was at a stand still. I heard loud quarelling (which is quite typical in traffic jam situations) I didnt think much of it till i heard a woman's shrill voice rise above the din. I looked towards the sound, and at that instant, saw a woman rudely shove a man away from her, lock her car and storm off with 3 kids in tow. I decided to watch and see what was going on.

Apparently, the woman's car had been 'scratched' by the man's car. Which was weird because the woman's car was actually behind the man's car (and by law when you hit someone from behind, you are at fault) The man had his very pregnant wife in his car with him and when he came down to check the damage, the women whose car was scratched, walked to his car and took his car keys from the ignition, went and locked up her car and proceeded to take her kids to school on foot. With her car on the road!

She caused even more traffic jam. And when the man walked up to her to demand for his car keys, she rudely shoved him away. If a car was coming it probably would have hit the man. The man didnt react. He was just making his case to everyone who would care to listen to him. Even when his pregnant wife ran up to the woman to ask her to return their car keys, she refused. About 15mins later she came back from dropping her kids and still refused to give back the man's keys demanding an apology from the man. Most men on the street were almost foaming at the mouth, threatening all sorts - how they would have dealt with the woman had it being their keys she took.
I started wondering. There is only so much a human can take. This is a man on his way to work and you take away his car keys after u hit him from behind. And it wasnt like there was any damage to any of the cars.

What would have happened if this man wasnt a gentleman? Would he have been justified if he had slapped his woman? I just wondered.

In as much as it is against everything good, to hit a woman, i believe we women should also be careful of the way we act towards men especially when we are angry. Bearing in mind that not all men have common sense, or self control. We should err on the side of caution so that everyone will be on our side when something goes wrong.

I strongly abhor violence against women. Women, please, dont invite it too!