Our kids are tough as nails!

Once a woman gives birth, she becomes a mother-hen! She hovers round her kids and tries to safe them from all harm - physical, mental, psychological even spiritual!

You see a mum take her baby forr immunization and as the nurse inserts the injection in the child, the mother winces in pain on behalf of the child! (i do it too and at the end, i wonder what da heck i was squeezing face for. LOL) Sometimes, the child doesnt even react as much.

We look at our children and see them as fragile beings that cant withstand anything at all. how wrong we are. Our kids are as tough as nails!

Scenario A

This morning, as i was getting ready to go out, my son came rushing in "Mummy, mummy, i hurt my leg". I looked at his leg and true enough, he had a cut on his second toe. I became mad (Like i usually am when they hurt themselves) Mad that i couldn't stop the harm before it happened. mad that i was probably negligent in a way for my child to hurt himself in the first place. Mad that they won't sit down in one place! I asked him how it happened and he said he hit his leg against the door. I told him "Sorry" admonished him for been so reckless and told him to go sit down. I was already feeling very bad. School resumes on Monday, how will he wear his school shoe if he has a cut on his leg? Will he attend first day of a new term in sandals? See me racking my head!

I went and got cotten wool, dipped it in antiseptic and went to where he was seating to clean the wound. As i  dabbed it with antiseptic, i was wincing in perceive pain on his behalf. I kept saying "Sorry" with each dab. After my 4th "Sorry" my son looked around and said "Mummy, who have you being saying Sorry, Sorry to?" I said " You, now" and the boy asked me "WHY"?

Can you even imagine that?????

I just threw away the cotton wool and walked away.

So i dey there dey break head, dey think about his leg, how much pain he probably is in, what he will wear to school and the guy wasn't feeling a thing!

You see, we underestimate our kids and what they can absorb. Those children are not as fragile as we think them to be. Lots of parents don't discipline their children, however small, just because they think "He is too fragile. If i spank him, i will injure him".
I am a firm believer in "Spare the rod, spoil the child". Children should be disciplined if they are to become responsible. But that doesn't mean we should kill them. As adults, we should know how to create a balance. We should know the punishment that is reasonable to give for what offence and for what age bracket (if you don't know, please ask ooo. Dont go and kill your child)
BALANCE IS KEY!

Don't let them get away with everything just because you look at them as crate of eggs. I have seen mums who say "He is too young to be spanked. I will start spanking him when he gets to 10 years or thereabout". Aunty, it  might be too late by then!

These kids are tough.

We love them very much but we should not hurt them with love. Letting them get away with things that will spoil their character in future is tantamount to cutting them with a knife right now. You are hurting them and that scar will always be there. Some adults today look back and blame their parents for their bad behaviors. they say "If only my mum and corrected me when i started this behavior, i wouldn't have turned out this way"

Don't be that  mother.

Love your kids, but love then with sense.

God bless!